Curing the Disease

The division of the LGBT community has always bothered me. I'm very aware of the fact that we cannot all have some magical bond based purely on sexuality. I'm also very aware that some of us- most of us, have to face the same battles. I think it's very important to realize that there is an unmatchable strength In numbers. Dare we take the chance to join hands and hearts to win this sometimes impossible war on inequality? Yes it may sound all "kumbaya" but cohesiveness works people!

There are so many divisions in the community, that I refuse to be part of any group or organization. Generally speaking, some of us tend to carry out separatist and superior attitudes. If group A that fights for marriage thinks that they're somehow better than Group B that doesn't, we all somehow end up remaining less than people who may not fit into an LGBTQ identification. So who really wins? We are always going to fight for different things, what matters is that we fight together. You know, "kill two birds with one stone"? We subject each other to the same ridicule that we feel victim of. I can guarantee you that your walking and marching doesn't make you a better asset to this fight, than someone who doesn't. We have to come at this from multiple directions. We can't pretend to possess more of the fight than we actually have. And hell, some people can't walk, let's not forget that.

Some of us may have more battles to get through before the war is finished, some of us have priorities arranged a tad differently. What is the point if we all continue to stand in judgement? I'll be the one to say that the LGBT community has as much hypocrisy as any other community with unresolved issues. In case you didn't get the memo, neither of us have been appointed saints. Gays aren't better than lesbians, lesbians aren't better than the trans community, trans-folk aren't better than queers or otherwise identified. I can only be sure about my own direction, but I want everyone to think about whether their the cure or the disease. If there is a sickness in house, it'll take a little longer for us to get well. ( please don't contact me about the metaphor, I'm not saying WE'RE sick.) All I'm saying is that we need to work together, to make things better. I'm sure this will come up again, so stay tuned.

Thanks for stopping by,
Blogs&kisses
-Spaz


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The Last Sunset

Here in New York City, the evidence of summer's faint goodbye engulfs us. The evidence of summer's last sunset can be found in the tents of fashion week, primetime TV's new fall line-up, and of course the weather. I for one am excited at the new possibilites that are promised with fall. If It isn't evident in my lack of posting both blogs and podcasts, my summer has been eventful. I can ensure you that is not a good thing. The technical difficulties, loss, and emotional turmoil I faced very much earned their way into my top three worst summers ever. BUT fear not, for I am trusting in myself to turn bad luck and misfortune into inspiration. The technical difficulties have yet to be corrected, and I do fear an indefinite hold on the show. I'm afraid that I've been gone for so long, avid listeners have moved on. I'm going to try my best to blog, but no promises.

Summer's on the way . . .So Lez Party Like It's 2009

I've taken a break from the scene for a little bit. So much to do and we all know time waits for no1. but im re-emerging for some very special events. Now lesbian lifestyle poses an issue for some of us because some party-goers make it in without ID. Or some parties are to "rowdy". You just have to know how to pick your party style. Now im a dancer so when i go out I love to hit a CLUB with a DJ spining top 40 hits from the 80's and beyond. (& im not afraid to admit i also enjoy sweating to the oldies and getting my disco fever on). Than there's the laid back party style, where you sip on something light and rub elbows with your city's hottest and most sophisticated women.

The summer is rapidly approaching and our weekend will be filled with Pride events and celebrations. Until than here's two of New York hottest over 21 events to kick off a sexy summer:

SPICE NYC is bringing sexy back to the city with their next special event for women on Sat, May 30th 2009. This event is a boat cruise around NYC’s East Side harbor on the Jewel ship! Enjoy an open bar and the beauty of the city to be followed by an after party where you're sure to get your dance on! To find out more info or connect with the organizer of the event check them out at SPICE NYC on MYSPACE . Be sure to get your tix before they sell out!

Now for all you dancing machines (who can make it out on the weekdays) SNAPSHOT NYC Is THEE place to be. The Scenic rooftop at the Delancey can make you forget you have to work the next day as you mingle and mix with NYC's many diffrent shades of lesbians. Thier tip off event is none another than June 9ths POP ART QUEER PROM. And if you can't tell im excited! A themed queer prom where you can bring your date, partner or main squeeze without causing a riot? I'll be there as should you! You can connect with the ladies that make it happen every Tuesday at SNAPSHOT NYC on MYSPACE . Check these ladies out and be sure to add them so you can stay in the loop and know when you can get your Part-tayyy on!

& remember tell them who sent cha!

PeaceLove&Patron-Spaz

Is this really an OUTRAGE?

Documentary Outrage has recently been released, causing what can be deemed a surprising division amongst homosexuals across the country. The film is said to use keen investigating techniques to go behind the scenes and into the closets of politicians who participate in homosexual conduct secretly. It's been made very clear that the folks behind the film deliberately strayed from any sort of tabloid sensationalized story telling. This film contains facts! Be it fact or fiction, is this the proper approach?

Personally, outing someone is not an option. Generally the LGBT community disagrees. As someone whose never had to "come out of the closet" I see forcing someone out as a great disservice. To out someone is to reveal a private aspect of said person's life that you may not agree with. When is the last time YOU outed someone thinking it would do them any GOOD? For those of you who believe that someone should be outed, is this because you also believe that being homosexual is wrong?

As you mull that over let's survey the suspects:

Politicians in power, voting no for gay rights and marriage equality. These same politicians than enjoying secret (and sometimes seedy) gay lifestyles. This can be looked at a multitude of ways. The politician is wrong for enjoying the parts of homosexuality that benefit him/her (sex). The politician isnt wrong for enjoying certain aspects of homosexuality, but wrong for not voting on identified homosexuals to enjoy other aspects (such as gay marriage). Now think of this some more. Have you ever had a secret, torrid, or ilicit affair? Do you believe in marriage after such an affair? If you were married, did you confess your dirty deeds to everyone? Is an affair of any sort of sexual nature news worthy?

If you find yourself answering yes to a lot of these questions maybe you too suffer with an issue of self-loathing as these politicians do. Don't get me wrong i don't believe that those who condone outing anyone neccasarily suffer from internalized homophobia o self-hate. I do , however believe that the big picture is being missed.

Oh how i can go on about this topic for days, but i think its better to discuss it in a forum or some sort of panel. That being said you can catch me live on SISTERS TALK RADIO tonight May 20, 2009 @ 8pm Eastern. Myself and a few other LGBT podcasters will be chatting it up on this very issue, and im looking forward to hearing everyone else's POV. Please tune and check it out. If you miss the live feed, it will be available five minute later in iTunes for download. While you there in iTunes subscribe to Sisters Talk Radio and Spaz Talk Radio. And please leave comments, this is one of those issues where you really want to get your feelings out.

www.blogtalkradio.com/sisters_talk -> 8pm eastern tune in!